You see that notification pop up on your phone, family group chat blowing up… it’s wedding season again! 🎉 But then, the dreaded message drops – your sibling’s getting hitched, and they’re looking for contributions. Suddenly, your excitement turns into a big ol’ question mark.
Should you be shelling out cash for someone else’s big day? 🤔 Especially if your bank account is singing Tanging Hiling (the broke version, obviously).
Look, fam, let’s break down this “wedding kontribusyon” culture.
To Give or Not To Give: That Is The Kwento
Let’s be real, weddings are EXPENSIVE. Like, “did-they-really-hire-a-10-piece-band-expensive.” And while it’s a celebration of love and whatnot, the financial burden can feel heavier than your Tita’s hand on your cheek.
So, when it comes to siblings and their weddings, where do we draw the line?
Reasons Your “Pamasko Budget” Shouldn’t Be Touched:
- You’re Climbing Mount Salary Grade 1 Yourself: Let’s be practical, mga ‘tol. If you’re still figuring out how to pay rent AND have enough for that Mang Inasal blowout, sponsoring a wedding isn’t exactly top priority.
- Dream Wedding, Whose Dream Is It Anyway? We all have different visions for our big day. If your sibling is opting for a five-star hotel reception while you’re perfectly content with a carinderia feast (masarap pa!), their dream shouldn’t become your financial nightmare.
- “Kanya-Kanyang Bayad” Culture is A-Okay: Remember those epic childhood fights over the last lumpia? Well, financial responsibility is no different. As adults, it’s perfectly acceptable (and healthy!) to set boundaries.
- Your Future Family is Your Priority: Planning to start your own little “kulit” crew someday? Your savings goals shouldn’t be derailed by someone else’s wedding, even if they are family.
- You’ve Got Other “Abilidad” to Offer: Money talks, but it’s not the only way to show your support. Your time, skills, and presence are just as valuable!
Before You Channel Your Inner “Tito/Tita of No”:
- Communication is Key (Like, Literal Key to Family Harmony): Before you drop out of the family group chat, have an honest and open conversation with your sibling. Explain your financial situation and explore alternative ways to contribute.
- Set a Realistic Budget (Or “Badyet,” If You Will): Determine what you CAN comfortably contribute, without sacrificing your own financial well-being. Maybe it’s a smaller cash gift, covering a specific expense, or offering your killer DIY skills.
- Offer Your Time and Talents (Because You’re Talented AF): Remember, weddings require an army of helpers. Offer to help with decorations, invitations, or even bust out your hidden talent for baking (hello, leche flan station!).
- Celebrate With Genuine Joy (Even if the Lechon is Dry): At the end of the day, it’s about celebrating love and family. Be present, be supportive, and bust out your best moves on the dance floor!
So, Are You the A-Hole?
Probably not. Unless you’re out there bragging about your recent trip to Boracay while your sibling is selling their prized Funko Pop collection to afford a decent photographer.
But seriously, deciding whether or not to contribute to a sibling’s wedding is a personal one. There’s no right or wrong answer. Weigh your options, communicate openly, and remember, your financial well-being is just as important as anyone else’s dream wedding.
Now go forth and be the best (and most financially responsible) sibling you can be! 🎉
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