Okay, mga inaanak, gather ’round. Let’s talk about love. Kilig and all.
You see those cheesy rom-coms? The ones where the guy chases the girl through an airport? Or the ones where they lock eyes across a crowded room and BAM! Destiny?
Yeah, those mess with your head. Big time.
Suddenly, you’re looking for your own fairy tale. Your own Prince Charming or your Dyosa in shining armor.
Then reality hits. You’re stuck on a date with someone who chews with their mouth open. Or worse, ghosting becomes a regular thing.
And you start to wonder…
Wala bang forever?
Don’t worry, mga anak. Tita’s got you. Let’s break down this “forever” thing and see if we can find it, shall we?
Why We Crave “Forever” (And Why It’s Tricky)
We’re hardwired for connection. Humans crave belonging like plants crave sunlight. It’s in our DNA.
- We want someone to share kwek kwek dates with.
- Someone to binge-watch K-dramas with until 3 am.
- Someone to build dreams with, to grow old with.
That deep yearning? That’s the “forever” whisper.
But here’s the catch:
- Forever is a long time: Like, longer than the lines at Jollibee during a Chickenjoy sale.
- People change: Shocking, right? What you find cute today might annoy you tomorrow. And that’s okay.
- Life throws curveballs: Job losses, family dramas, a global pandemic – sometimes “forever” needs to be put on hold while you deal with real life.
So, does this mean “forever” is a lie?
Not necessarily. But it does mean we need to adjust our expectations.
Ditch the Fairy Tale, Embrace the Real Deal
Let’s swap out that Disney filter for something more real, more…Pinoy.
Here’s the truth:
Forever isn’t a destination, it’s a journey. A long, winding, sometimes bumpy, often hilarious journey.
And like any good road trip, you need the right mindset and supplies to make it.
Building a Love That Lasts: A Tita’s Guide
Forget the grand gestures and focus on the everyday things. Here’s what matters:
1. Choose Someone You Actually Like (Not Just Love)
Love is great, but liking someone? That’s the secret sauce.
- Can you be your weird self around them?
- Do you laugh at their jokes (even the bad ones)?
- Can you talk about anything and everything?
If you can’t be friends with your partner, “forever” is going to be torture.
2. Communication is Key (No, Seriously)
Remember that game show, “Family Feud?” Where getting the wrong answer meant losing everything?
Communication in relationships? Kind of like that.
- Talk about your feelings (even the messy ones)
- Learn each other’s love languages (words of affirmation, acts of service, you know the drill)
- Listen to understand, not just to reply (put down the phone, anak)
3. Respect Each Other’s Space
Being together 24/7 sounds romantic until you’re fighting over the last lumpia.
- Having your own hobbies and interests keeps things interesting
- It gives you something to talk about besides what you had for dinner
- It reminds you that you’re two whole people, not just half of a couple
4. Embrace the “Growing Pains”
Remember that thing about people changing? It’s going to happen in your relationship too.
- Goals shift, priorities change, new dreams emerge.
- Embrace the growth, both individually and as a couple.
- Be flexible, be understanding, be willing to adapt.
**5. Fight Fair (Yes, There Will Be Fights)
Newsflash: Even the most in-sync couples argue. It’s normal. It’s healthy.
- Focus on resolving the issue, not on “winning.”
- No name-calling, low blows, or bringing up the past.
- Remember, you’re on the same team, even when it feels like you’re not.
6. Never Stop Dating (Even After Years of Being Together)
Remember the excitement of those early dates? Keep that spark alive!
- Go on regular date nights (even if it’s just ordering take-out and watching Netflix).
- Surprise each other, make an effort, keep things fun.
- Courtship doesn’t end when you say “I love you.”
7. Choose Each Other, Every Single Day
“Forever” isn’t a one-time decision. It’s a daily choice.
- Choose to love your partner, even when they’re being difficult.
- Choose to support their dreams, even if they’re different from yours.
- Choose to forgive, choose to grow, choose to keep building that love.
Wala Bang Forever? Maybe. Maybe Not.
The truth is, none of us know what the future holds. But that’s okay.
Instead of chasing this elusive “forever,” focus on building a love that feels like home. A love that’s strong enough to weather any storm. A love that’s filled with laughter, joy, and a whole lot of lumpia.
And who knows, maybe, just maybe, that “forever” you’re looking for will find its way to you.
After all, anything is possible. Kaya natin ‘to!